…through Improved Communication Skills
To understand how to improve the way in which you deal with conflict, with your partner, it is first necessary to identify your communication style. There are three main styles of communication and most people tend to favour one style, the majority of the time. These are known as:
The Identifying Characteristics of Aggressive Communication:
The Identifying Characteristics of Non – assertive Communication:
The Identifying Characteristics of Assertive Communication:
Conflict within a relationship can successfully only be dealt with, within a relationship, in an assertive fashion. There is no place for resolution of conflict by behaving or communicating either aggressively or passively.
How do Assertive People Communicate?
|Learning to successfully deal with conflict within a relationship, takes practice! I usually recommend to couples or families that they take time out several times a week to learn how to do this. It is best to set aside a time when all members of the family involved in the discussion are not too tired or stressed, usually at the end of the day after dinner, children in bed, dishes done etc.The people involved will take turns to speak, up to 10 minutes at a time, without interruption from others, speaking assertively about one issue at a time. After they have finished, someone else can speak under the same guidelines and then take turns until the issue is either dealt with or it is necessary to take time out.
Basic Rules of Conflict Resolution:
For both the Speaker & the Listener:
These rules may seem self evident but in times of conflict it is easy to overlook them. When trying to change the ways with which you deal with conflict, practice makes perfect!