“Depression exhausts me. Depression blinds me. Depression strangles me.”
– Sri Chinmoy
Depression is the most common reason people consider seeking help from a counsellor. Definitions of depression vary dependent upon the health professionals that you ask. To a physician it is a mental disease, something you can treat with medication. To the pharmacy industry, it is an opportunity to make lots of money and some psychiatrists will define it as a physical brain disorder.
Depression is a term for a complex set of processes but is not necessarily a ‘thing’. It is a useful label, but telling someone that they are depressed could be seen as permission to adopt a certain way of thinking and reacting. This is not to deny that to experience depression is a real and debilitating event and should always be taken seriously by any therapist, but it may be more useful for the person suffering, to acknowledge that people can be involved in the process of depressing themselves. That is, it is not an outside force that attacks them, but a process in which they can develop the power to turn around and change. A therapist can help their patients or clients to realize that they have control over their own fate and do not have to be passive victims of a disease.
People describe their ‘depression’ in many ways and the words used are symbolic representations of complex facts and feelings. Expressions such ‘falling endlessly into a black hole’, ‘locked inside a cage’, ‘silently screaming and knowing that no one will hear’ are only some of the phrase used. Everybody ‘does’ depression in different ways but the pain is the same. In some people, depression is denied and unrecognized because they control it by acting out in self harmful ways, such as eating disorders, alcohol or drug abuse or aggressive behaviour.
As a psychotherapist I have a duty of care when a client presents to me with depressive ideation, to ensure that they do not have suicidal thoughts and plans. In such cases, I will always recommend that they see a GP to discuss anti depressant medication as well as continuing therapy. In most other situations I do not suggest pharmaceutical medication because I do not see depression as an illness but as a way of coping with overwhelming circumstances. What may have evolved as a coping mechanism to help numb the overburdened person from life’s pain should not be seen as a sign of weakness but as a survival skill that is no longer useful, and that can be changed through trauma counselling.